Once Again – Diets Don’t Work
My version of intuitive eating is relatively simple, but does take some time and practice to get down. I think I can sum it up into this short statement: love your food, body & life. Remember, reversing years of disordered eating, is not undone overnight. For me, it was 7 years, but for my followers, the timeframe will be much less. I’m here to help you avoid the many pitfalls I experienced along the way.
I can’t tell you how many people whom I admire – fashion bloggers, body positive models, lifestyle entrepreneurs, spiritual gurus etc. – that have the weight thing all wrong. They are still stuck in some form of inevitable longterm failure via 1. deprivation 2. body hate or 3. lack-of mindset.
And though we can all deprive ourselves for a time, 97% of us can’t do it forever. This is why less than 1-3% of dieters keep the weight off. Stated more bluntly, humans don’t keep weight off when induced by deprivation, selfhate or lack-of mindset. So if you are stuck in the damaging cycle of one (or all!) of these mindsets, consider taking a new approach.
My Life-Changing Approach To Health
My program, at this point, has a 3-pronged approach: 1. intuitive eating 2. bodylove and 3. beautiful living. So it really is an entire lifestyle, one that manifests your most beautiful self. I am not a doctor or nutritionist, but I am a happy, healthy, beautiful curvygirl who cured herself of a 20-year eating disorder. I ended the vicious cycle of never-ending weight loss and gain, and settled into a lovely size 16. So if you are looking for someone who values selflove-inspired health and wellness, I’m your girl.
P1. Intuitive Eating
Intuitive eating means pretty much the opposite of dieting. It involves allowing yourself access to any and all foods, while learning the art of listening to your body’s signals for cravings, hunger and fullness. I encourage the most delicious and high quality versions of whatever you desire – such as full-fat dressings, local fruits and veggies, fresh-baked pastries and organic animal products. The idea is to build a relationship of trust between you and your body, letting your genius body be the guide.
Interestingly, when we eat intuitively, our bodies begin to heal themselves. Allergies go away. Digestion gets better. Our bodies begin to magically heal and restore themselves. Eating disorders and food addictions lose their grip, and eventually, fade away altogether. Our bodies settle into a state of peace and balance, and we feel relief and freedom. Some gain weight, some lose weight, many remain the same. It all depends on your natural setpoint.
On The Topic Of Weight Loss
Eventually, our bodies settle into the perfect weight for us. And to be fair, not everyone is meant to be skinny. And to be real, curvy is beautiful, too. Our bodies have a predetermined setpoint that they desire to maintain, and it is up to us to love and accept what-is. We must stop forcing our bodies to be something they aren’t, and find a space of love and acceptance for whatever form we naturally possess. This is possible, and as a fat woman myself, I have found increasing beauty with time.
Many who follow my program will lose weight overtime, but it isn’t guaranteed or anything I encourage. The reality is that dieting has put many individuals above their natural setpoints, and so to end restriction, selfhate and lack-of mindset – leaves the body space to return to it’s desired smaller size. But many are below their setpoint, due to recent restriction. These individuals will gain weight during the IE process. I was below my setpoint and did gain weight for some time, until I finally settled into what I am today. I now maintain my weight effortlessly, eating anything I want.
In terms of bodyhate – how’s that workin for ya? Have you hated yourself silly and found your life better because of it? All of the negative self-talk, mean comments and discouraging comparisons – do you feel any more beautiful because of them? As a woman with a PhD in Selfhate, I can tell you from firsthand experience that hating on your body actually makes you fatter. (And uglier.) Selflove is what heals you and makes you beautiful.
These days I feel like the most beautiful woman in the room. I can’t explain it, but after years of feeling like the ugly-duckling, I now consider myself a true gem. Achieving bodylove is relatively easy when we fill our minds with images, quotes, books, movies, tv shows and friends that are body positive. It is about reprogramming your mind to see yourself as your personal ideal, rather than what society has brainwashed you to think. Soon enough, you will view your “flaws” as your greatest assets, and your fat as sensuous curves.
Style is an important component of the healing process. This means throwing out the old clothes and buying new ones. This means getting a makeover and a new hairstyle. This means having a handful of adorable shoes and matching purses. I don’t care if you have to Forever 21 or thrift-store it, but it has to be done. I encourage top-notch skincare (contact me if you’d like to try mine!) and habitual personal hygiene. Waking up earlier each day to get dressed-up is essential to bringing the world your most beautiful self. This program isn’t for lazy people. It’s for people that are ready for a real life-change, from the inside, out.
P3. Beautiful Living
And finally, we move into a space that involves creating your most beautiful life. This means reversing the lack-of mindset that often accompanies those of us who have been overweight and abused our entire lives. It is time to step into a new mindset of abundance – trusting that God is ready and willing to fulfill the truest desires of your heart.
This may mean getting a housekeeper, taking up a new sport, engaging in an art class, making a career change, hiring a dating coach, letting go of toxic family or breaking up with your partner. The idea is to take some time to look at your life, and to have the courage to take baby steps towards whatever feels most beautiful to you.
My Most Beautiful Life
For me, my most beautiful life involves a morning routine where I care for my body and spirt through exercise, prayer and mediation. I fill my days with meaningful work that involves using my gifts to love, heal and inspire whomever God draws to me. It involves relaxed evening meals with loved ones, and some dessert to follow. My most beautiful life requires a pretty bed in a clean and safe home in Manhattan.
My dream career possibly involves singing, speaking and modeling all over the world – in a way that brings inspiration to hurting people. I hope to one day meet my soulmate and have a beautiful home and family together. Everything in my life reflects this dream, though much of it isn’t yet reality. I am daily taking baby steps, whatever next right move I can think of to take – in order to steadily build my most beautiful life.
So I guess the motto of my company is – love your food, body and life? I donno. I’m terrible with mottos and labels. They make me feel weird. I think what I’m slowly building is essentially an inspirational lifestyle brand, catered towards the modern curvygirl.
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